I went with a asus p55 pro,was going with evga liked the layout and the hsf (able to use 775 1156 ) always liked asus so that's the route I choose.
Should receive parts Friday plan on OCing,so by monday I'll be able to have more info.Here is the memory I'm using
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16820231279
as far as the QVL lists go neither one is on the chart,so we'll see. 
1st PQ5-pro E8500 gskill 8gig(overkill) Vision 4850
Asus dvd RW seagate 320,640 & samy f1 750
corsaire 750 PSU Antec 1200
M2N-SLI Deluxe - DVD Lite-on lightscribe
AMD A64 5200+2.6g AM2 - Asus dvd RW
4gig corsair xms 6400r 5.5.5.12.2t Evga 8800GTS Sata2 320 HD Sata 160 HD 750 corsair PSU Antec900